Learning Turkish – Do As I Say

Learning Turkish - work out which way is best for you.

Where to begin?

My Turkish is largely self-taught, acquired on a need-to-know basis. As a result my experience of learning Turkish has been a largely hit and miss affair. I learnt by talking to doctors, real estate agents and assorted government personnel. These situation were fraught with tension and nerves as I had to get everything absolutely right. Failing to do so had serious consequences. Luckily these days I can practice my Turkish in more relaxed and rewarding ways.

With the help of my wonderful beautician Sakine Hanim, I have quashed the paralysing fear I used to experience at the mere thought of making a mistake. She and I can now easily discuss the ins and out of hair removal, whether by using ip (string) or ağda (wax), having clarified I want the stray hairs removed from my toes and not from my wings. This came about after I made her laugh hysterically when I told her I thought tüy were feathers on a bird, only to learn the word also means body hair. Until then I had thought that saç, or head hair, covered it all.

One-to-one or in a group?

Naturally, learning by osmosis involves a lot of trial and error and isn’t for everyone. To find out what other options are available, I spoke with a number of foreign women living here and asked their opinions about the best way of learning Turkish.

It’s clear from their answers that this differs greatly from person to person and depends on various factors. The big schools like Tömer and Dilmer, which have been running for years, offer standardised classes aimed at passing on as much theory as possible in a set structure. While this works for some, the majority of women I spoke to said studying with newer, smaller schools, such as Kedicat and Turkuaz in Istanbul, which combine grammar with an emphasis on speaking, result in more useful language acquisition. Those who chose a private teacher for one-to-one lessons did so based on word-of-mouth. Only a few specifically looked for a trained teacher. As a qualified teacher of English, I agree with Lotte from Denmark who said,”you need someone who knows something about different methods of teaching and different learning styles”. People taught by creative teachers who vary their teaching methods get more out of classes, whether individually or in a group, than from more rigid lesson structures. Women who had tried one-to-one lessons reported that motivation was the biggest factor in their success. Louise of Ireland enjoyed the control she had when she took lessons in her own home but said, “the downside was it was easy to cancel lessons, easy to dally, and easy to call many breaks during the lessons”.

Despite their varying experiences, it’s clear that it doesn’t matter what age you are when you try learning Turkish, how long you have lived here or whether you have a Turkish partner or not. If you want to be successful, there are three main points to remember.


Everyone agreed that the key to learning Turkish is to learn the grammar. I’ve worked my way through numerous teach yourself Turkish language books, including the “Hugo Turkish in Three Months”. Although the title is a bit of a misnomer because ninety days isn’t near enough time, the lessons are clearly explained and well laid out. Another title that got a repeat mention is the “Yeni Hitit” series, used in large and small schools alike.

Help Yourself

I’m old-fashioned so I still like to refer to printed English-Turkish dictionaries like Langenscheidt or Redhouse. Nevertheless I do use online sites for translation and practice and most of the women who answered my questions agreed this helps. In addition, there are many different websites you can use to advance your Turkish. As you go through them think about what sort of learner you are. I can’t pick up vocabulary unless I see the words, but other people learn better through hearing them. I prefer to brush up my grammar by practising certain activities, but others do better with rote learning. I teach for a living so I’m used to designing learning tools, but some people might find this too hard. You’ll need to experiment before you find the sites that work for you, but it’s well worth taking the time to find out.

Talk to a Turk to talk like a Turk!

When I first came to Turkey the only way to connect with people was face-to-face, and most of the people I met were Turkish. Students became my friends, and although at first we mainly spoke English together, they slowly helped me understand more Turkish. Now the majority of my friends are Turkish and often I will be the one speaking in Turkish while they respond in English. In contrast, most of the women I spoke to have few Turkish friends, and even those married to Turks said their husbands usually spoke to them in English. Margaret* from Australia, told me that “Hubby is not the best teacher and gets frustrated with my grammar and accent!” She is undeterred, however, and continues to work on her Turkish, insisting you should, “Mix with locals not yabancı”, if you want to improve.

Final Word(s)

As a teacher of English to non-native speakers I am familiar with the difficulties of learning a new language. Even so, I was surprised when I learnt it took on average sixteen introductions to a new word before it ‘stuck’. New and continuing learners should bear this in mind next time they bemoan their lack of progress. Turkish is a very difficult language, so you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself if it doesn’t come naturally. Lotte always carries a dictionary in her bag and says, “Never give up, even if you think it’s hopeless! … The Turks are very tolerant and love to help you”.

Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, because you certainly can’t do worse than I have. Once I went into a stationery shop, dictionary in hand, to buy an envelope. I had carefully looked up the word I needed, and confidently announced, ‘Bir sarılmak istiyorum’. The shop owner looked puzzled and said ‘Pardon?’. Taking this to mean I hadn’t been clear enough I loudly repeated my sentence. Looking askance he gestured for my dictionary and had me show him what I wanted. When I pointed at zarf, the noun for envelope, he indicated the word I’d said. It was sarılmak, the verb meaning to envelop or hug. Thankfully he ignored my crimson face and I slunk away, an envelope enveloped in my hand.

So be brave and remember, most Turkish people will laugh with you and not at you. Just do as I say and not as I do and you’ll be learning Turkish in no time!

* name has been changed at participant’s request


Some useful resources

Although I am largely self-taught, I have found a few books very useful to reinforce my knowledge. They are Turkish in Three Months (Hugo)  and 201 Turkish Verbs




(This piece first appeared in Lale, Magazine of the International Women of Istanbul, September-October issue, 2014)

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About Goreme1990

I’m Lisa Morrow, the person behind www.insideoutinistanbul.com. I was born in Sydney, Australia and grew up a leafy middle class North Shore suburb. After finishing high school I went to Sydney University but failed to find my niche. After working as a public servant, cleaner, sales assistant, waitress, bar maid and car counter, I went overseas. Once there I hitchhiked through the UK, travelled in Europe and arrived in Turkey just as the Gulf War was starting. My three months stay in the small central Anatolian village of Göreme changed my life. On my return to Australia I earned a BA Honours Degree in Sociology from Macquarie University. An academic career beckoned but the call to travel was louder. After several false starts I moved to Turkey and lived there for ten years. In 2017 I moved to Lisbon, Portugal, but continue to travel regularly to Istanbul. In addition to my blog I've written a travel narrative memoir called "Waiting for the Tulips to Bloom: Adrift in Istanbul" and two collections of essays, "Inside Out In Istanbul: Making Sense of the City" and "Exploring Turkish Landscapes: Crossing Inner Boundaries". I have a regular segment on San Francisco Turkish radio and in early 2017 I released an audio walking tour called "Stepping back through Chalcedon: Kadikoy Walk", through VoiceMap. In addition I write for various international and Australian magazines and websites, as well as for this blog. A full list of my published articles, with links, can be found on the Writing on Turkey and Writing Beyond Turkey pages.
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2 Responses to Learning Turkish – Do As I Say

  1. J Lee says:

    Hi Lisa, any suggestions on where to learn Turkish in Ankara besides Tomer? I saw that there are unfortunately no Kedicat schools in Ankara.

    • Goreme1990 says:

      I have only ever been to Ankara as a tourist (love the museum!) so I don’t know about Turkish schools there. However you could check to see if there are any couchsurfing groups doing language exchange. If you are serious about improving your Turkish these events can be a great way to learn and have fun at the same time!

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